逃离是逃避,还是改变?

生活总是充斥着诸多不如意。

我们不愿接受,因此想要改变。

然而改变很难,首先难在看清我们是要改变还是要逃避。

国情文化不同,人心却是相同。爱丽丝·门罗的《逃离》里面一个个故事,触动人心。

其中最触动的是开篇,名为《逃离》的短篇。

小说里,女主人公卡拉与母亲继父的关系不和,为逃离原生家庭的不幸,匆匆结婚。

然而婚后更加不幸福。丈夫暴戾强势,事事必须顺从他。

卡拉没有一丝自由和尊严,完全是丈夫的附属品。

她跟邻居诉苦,求助,想要逃离丈夫,就像当年逃离母亲一样。

邻居借给卡拉钱,又帮她在新城市安排了住处。

卡拉坐上大巴车,奔赴新生活。车开到半途,她却后悔了。她让丈夫来接她回去,祈求丈夫原谅。

故事最后,卡拉明知丈夫残忍杀死了她心爱的宠物,却只能若无其事,默默忍受。这或许是作者在预示,卡拉的懦弱会让她一生不幸。

卡拉的悲哀不在于遇人不淑,而是她没有真正的独立。

卡拉两次逃离,第一次逃离母亲之所以成功,是因为她找到了新的依靠。

婚后,发现这个依靠也不如意。于是有了第二次逃离。

邻居的帮助只是推了她一把,却不算真正的依靠。

没有依靠,未知的新生活显得越发恐怖,她畏惧了,退缩了,也失败了。

这个故事特别触动我,因为我发现我很像女主,一不如意,就想逃离。

现在才醒悟,逃离不是改变,而是懦弱地逃避,解决不了实际问题。

我的目标是活出自己。

首先要直面问题。

不然一切都是徒劳。

Life is full of disappointments.

We don't want to accept, so we want to change.

But change is difficult.

To change or to run away,that is a problem.

Canadian writer Alice munro's short story 《Runaway》 tells us about attempted escape.

The leading character in the novel Carla don`t get well with her mother.

In order to escape her mother's control, she get married.

But marriage is even less happy. Her husband is so violent and autocracy

Carla had no freedom or dignity. She was just her husband's slave.

She complained to her neighbour and asked for help to escape from her husband.

Neighbor lent Carla money and arranged her to live in the new city.

Carla got on the bus and headed for her new life. Halfway, she regretted. She asked her husband to pick her up and pray for his forgiveness.

At the end of the story, Carla knowed that her husband brutally killed her beloved pet, but she only bear it as if nothing had happened.

It may be predicting that Carla's cowardice will lead her to a lifetime of misfortune.

Carla's sorrow is not because of failure marrige, but less independence.

Carla run away twice. The first escape from her mother was successful because she found new support.

Unhappy marriage leads to a second escape

This time she couldn't depend on anyone but herself , the new life is unknowed and scared, she was terrified and http://retreated.in the end,she was failed.

This story touched me, because I found I was very much like Carla.

Once i'm disappointed or failed, I want to run away.

Now I realize that runaway cannot change anything,but a cowardly escape, not a solution to the real problem.

My goal is to be myself.

The first step is taking courage to deal with my problems.

Otherwise it's all for nothing.

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