避免问题做成生活的混乱

Everyone goes through ups and down in daily life. Ordinarily, no one is able to escape this fluctuation between unpleasant and pleasant feelings. Even though there is no immediate remedy for overcoming every single situation that we face in our journey of life, we cannot simply allow our problems to consume our whole life nor can we ignore them and expect them to go away. Instead, we should seriously examine any pressing issues so that our problems do not throw our lives into chaos. We must first understand that there will be some problems that we are able to address effectively and totally eliminate, and there will be other problems that we may have to simply learn to live with. We must practice patience and be realistic in our approach to each different situation. For instance, if we are hungry,  all we have to do is grab something to satisfy our hunger. On the other hand, there are certain situations, such as family concerns or having to live next to unfriendly neighbors, which we must simply accept. In these circumstances, we must try our level best to deal with the situation wisely and skillfully in order to bring about the best outcome for ourselves and others. Simply hoping and praying for a situation to change will not get us anywhere. Instead, we must come to terms with whatever challenge we come up against and face it with compassion and wisdom. That is what people who are successful in their lives have learned to do. So, for our own sake, we should learn how deal with unavoidable situations in our daily lives.

每個人在日常生活中都會經歷跌宕起伏的過程。通常，沒有人能夠擺脫這種在歡欣和不悅之間擺盪的情緒波動。即使沒有立即的解方，可以來克服生活中所遇到的每一種情況，我們也不能因此而束手讓問題把我們一輩子給吞噬，更不能忽略它們又期望問題會自己消失。相反地，我們應該認真地檢視每一個迫切的問題，以避免問題使我們的生活陷入混亂。首先我們必須了解，某些問題是我們能夠有效解決並徹底消除的，但是某些問題卻是我們必須學習與之共處的。在應對每種不同情況時，我們必須保持耐心與現實感。舉例來說，如果我們感到飢餓，我們所要做的就是抓些東西來滿足飢餓感就好。但另一方面，如果是像家庭問題，或是鄰居不友善等等這類的情況，我們要做的就是學會去接受它。在這些情境下，我們必須以智慧和技巧，盡最大的努力來處理問題，好為我們自己和他人帶來最好的結果。僅僅是期待和祈禱情勢會有所改變，並不能真的解決問題。相反地，我們必須迎向我們所遇到的任何挑戰，並以慈悲和智慧來面對它。這就是成功人士所學到的經驗。因此，為了我們自己，我們應該學習如何去處理日常生活中所有不可避免的情況。

苏曼迦旺