日期：2021.04.01
【人物学习】
贾琏：红楼梦人物
都知道贾家男丁，除了宝玉是护花使者，其他都是些不正经的人。而贾琏也是其中之一。虽然有王熙凤管束的那么严，也一样摘花惹草。
直到尤二姐吞金自杀，贾琏才表现出来那么一点真情。
也之所以是尤二姐自杀后，贾琏或许才真正看清了王熙凤的狠毒与精明算计。也真正后悔没有更好的对待尤二姐，让那么一个，给自己温暖的人却死得如此凄惨。甚至连丧葬费都被王熙凤给算计走了，平儿好不容易偷了些来，才算是办了丧葬。整整守孝了7天，匆忙埋了。因为贾母被王熙凤忽悠说尤二姐得了痨病，怕传染不能入家庙。也正因为如此，贾琏对王熙凤恨之入骨，曾经一共三次想要致其死地。但是碍于其势力，却也不能左右。
反过来再看，纵使王熙凤管的再严，贾琏也依旧时时刻刻不忘沾花惹草，或许这就是哪里有镇压，哪里就有反抗吧。越严格，越放肆，两种极端纵使相辅相成的，而不会独自一份。所以贾琏偷用任何时刻去行乐。金屋藏娇尤二姐，回来又和秋桐干柴烈火。其实也无不藏着一股子不服输的劲，偏想与王熙凤对着干。当然，也是以为王熙凤太过于泼辣，而少了那份柔美，才让尤二姐深得贾琏的所爱。
所以，温柔以待，反倒能深得其心。太过于严厉、太过于苛刻，都显得会力不从心，或适得其反。
贾琏纵使有千百万个过错，也在尤二姐去世后显现出了真情。那种真情流露是欺骗不了的。也真的是受到过尊敬温柔相对才有的部分吧。其实，我们也要注意这个部分，是否过于严厉而劝退或惹恼了很多人。
【作品学习与读书】
萨古鲁：三件最重要的事，使你完全绽放潜能
Yogi and mystic, Sadhguru, looks at the most important things in life that can help every individual live a full-fledged life and blossom to their fullest potential.
瑜伽士和神秘家萨古鲁，探讨了生命中可以帮助每个人活出完整的人生，并全然绽放自己潜能的最重要的事。
#1 Reflect what is around you
#1 映射出你周围的事物
Sadhguru: Your inner world – if you want to call it that – should only be a reflection of what is around you. This may be diametrically opposite to some moral theories that say the outer and the inner should not touch each other, otherwise you would immediately get corrupted by everything around you. That is not true. You get corrupted by what is around you only when you have opinions about everything.
Sadhguru（萨古鲁）：你的内在世界，如果你想这样称呼它，应当只是你周围事物的反映。这种说法可能跟某些认为外在跟内在不应该有接触，否则你会立刻被周围的一切腐蚀的道德理论截然相反。这不是真的。只有当你对一切有看法时，你才会被周围的事物腐蚀。
You look at one thing as good, something else as bad. You get attached to what you consider as good. You desperately try to avoid what you consider as bad, and of course that will rule you from inside. This is not the way to be. Seeing everything just the way it is – that is the way to be within. If you see something other than what is there, it means you are contaminating the world with your opinions and prejudices.
你将一件事物看作是好的，另外一件是坏的。你便会执着于你认为好的事物上。你会拼命地试图避免你认为是坏的那些事物，这自然就会从内部控制你。这不是存在的方式。如其所是地看待一切事物，这是内在存在的方式。如果你看到的并不是存在那里的事物，这意味着你在用你的看法和偏见污染这个世界。
Touching the ultimate, rather than defining yourself through patterns of thoughts and emotions, is the greatest and one of the most important things in life you can do.
触碰终极，而不是通过思想和情感的模式定义自己，这就是你在生命中所能做的最伟大、最重要的事情之一。
Creation is made so that you see it the way it is, not to make it the way you want to make it. This is an obscenity that humanity is committing upon the Creator’s creation. Such a magnificent creation – what is there for you to do? Absorb it, if you can – nothing more – and even that is not simple because creation is phenomenally multi-tiered. There are not just things; so many phenomena are happening right here – one inside the other, all in one space, all in one time.
造物是为了让你看到它原本的样子，而不是让它成为你想要的样子。这是人类对造物主的创造所犯下的一种猥亵行为。对于如此宏伟的创造，还有什么要你去做的呢？如果你可以，就去吸收它，仅此而已。即便这也并不简单，因为创造是非常多层次的。不仅仅有事物；这里有那么多的现象正在发生，一个在另一个里面，而这些都在同一个空间、同一时间里发生着。
Everything that you think is past, everything that you think will be future is right here. If you see everything the way it is, if the whole creation reflects within you, if you can contain creation the way it is within you, you become the very source of creation. That is the way to be, inside and outside.
所有你认为是过去的事情，所有你认为是未来的事情，都在这里。如果你如实看待一切，如果你的内在映射出整个创造，如果你能将造物按它原本的样子承纳在你之内，你就会成为创造之源。这就是存在的方式，无论内在还是外在。
#2 Don't be a psychological case
#2 不要成为心理个案
Either you exist here as a piece of creation, which is pretty good, or you become like the very source of creation, which is fantastic. But being a psychological case is not a good thing. To be just a psychological case, you need not have put your mother through the trouble of delivering you. She could have delivered a file, and someone could have studied the case. It is not worth being a psychological case. If you consider only your thoughts and emotions as your life and there is nothing beyond that for you, you are a psychological case. You should not die as a psychological case – a bundle of thoughts, emotions, opinions, and prejudices. You must become a vibrant, full-fledged life. These are the most important things in life.
要么你作为造物的一小部分存在于此，这相当不错，或者你变得像创造之源，这非常棒。但成为一个心理个案不是一件好事。如果只是成为一个心理个案，你没必要让你的母亲费劲地生下你。她可以递一份文件，某人可以研究这个个案。成为一个心理个案并不值得。如果你只将你的思想和情绪当作你的生命，此外再无其它，那你就是一个心理个案。你不应该作为一个心理个案死去——一堆想法、情绪、观点和偏见。你必须成为一个充满活力、完整的生命。这些是生命中最重要的事。
Touching the ultimate, rather than defining yourself through patterns of thoughts and emotions, is the greatest and one of the most important things in life you can do. You should strive to become an absolutely full-fledged life. A full-fledged life does not mean going out and doing all kinds of exploits in the world. It means allowing yourself to grow to full depth and dimension. Every human being should do this.
触碰终极，而不是通过思想和情感的模式定义自己，这就是你在生命中所能做的最伟大、最重要的事情之一。你应该努力成为一个绝对完整的生命。一个完整的生命并不意味着走出去，在世界上建功立业。它意味着允许自己在深度和广度上完全地成长。每个人都应该做到这一点。
#3 Doing what’s really needed
#3 做真正需要做的事情
What we do is determined by what is needed. These days, wherever I go, people recognize me as someone who planted so many trees, educating so many children, built so many hospitals, and so on. I squirm at the thought that this is what I am known for. It is most unfortunate that most people cannot think beyond food, education, and things like that.
我们所做的事情是由需要来决定的。如今，不管我去到哪里，大家都认为我是个种了那么多树、教育了那么多孩子、建了那么多家医院等等的人。一想到这就是我出名的原因，我就感到不安。最不幸的是，大多数人除了食物、教育这类事情之外，想不到别的东西。
Suppose the country or the world was doing really well – everyone had enough to eat, everyone was well educated, everything was happening well – what meaning would it have to start an Isha Vidhya school and to give a midday meal? Right now, when the children have not eaten properly, the midday meal seems like a great blessing. It is a blessing only because of the cruelty of poverty. It is not a true blessing. Only because we created human beings without having the necessary food for them, serving them a meal feels like a great thing. I don’t think it is. It is unfortunate that such things are still needed in the world.
假设这个国家或世界已经做得很好，每个人都有足够的食物，每个人都受到良好的教育，所有事情都进展得不错，那建设Isha乡村学校和提供午餐又有什么意义？现在，当孩子们没得吃的时候，有午餐似乎就是一个大福分。只是因为残酷的贫穷，它才成为一个福分。但它不是一个真正的福分。只是因为我们把人生了出来，却没有给他们必须的食物，为人提供一顿饭感觉就像是一件伟大的事情。我不认为它是。不幸的是，世界上仍有这样的事情需要做。
Your inner world should only be a reflection of what is around you.
你的内在世界应该只是你周围事物的反映。
Even if everyone had eaten well and they had everything they wanted, enhancing the experience of life to its ultimate possibility would still always be relevant. Ultimately, this is the purpose of all life – to blossom to its fullest potential. Whether it is a little plant, a tree, an elephant, an ant, a man, or a woman – the ultimate goal is to become a full-fledged life.
即便每个人都吃得好，拥有他们想要的一切，提升生命体验至其终极的可能性仍总有意义。最终，绽放出自己全部的潜能是所有生命的目的所在。无论是一棵小植物、一棵树、一头大象、一只蚂蚁、一个男人还是一个女人，最终的目标都是成为一个完整的生命。
But being in the world, we have to play some game. Let us play a game that is of maximum usefulness and meaning to everyone around us. If you reflect creation just the way it is, there is no personal need to play a game and no compulsion to be a part of any game. Whether you withdraw into a cave or plunge into the marketplace, it is still a game. The only way to not be part of any game is to dissolve. That is a great thing to do, but when human beings attain to a certain clarity within themselves, they are of immense value to everyone around, so it is good if they hang around for a while and bring a little more clarity to others.
但身处这个世界，我们必须要玩些游戏。让我们玩一个对我们周围所有人都有最大用处和意义的游戏。如果你只是以造物原本的样子反映它，你就不会需要玩这个游戏，也没有要参与游戏的强烈冲动。无论你躲进洞穴还是身陷市井之中，这仍然是个游戏。不参与任何游戏的唯一方法就是消融，这是一件伟大的事情，但当人们自身达到某种清晰度时，他们对于周围的每个人都具有巨大的价值，所以如果他们在周围停留一段时间，并为其他人带来更多的清晰度，这是很好的。
【思考】
莫慌：
很多时候其实我们都很慌。尤其是年级增长，事情也越来越多了。更多的人，不敢关手机，不敢关闭声音，随时恨不得和手机共眠，生怕错过任何一个信息，任何一个电话。那我们到底在怕什么？
怕错过最重要的通知？怕错过亲人的求助？还是因为上有老下有小的不得不担责任？多少我们所呈现的不仅仅是焦虑，而是慌张。
你曾试着不看手机一天吗？或者离开手机一天嘛？或许没有吧。
因为，你觉得离开手机就会丢失一切一样。
但其实，离开一天或者离开手机一会，并不会有太大的事情。即使有，也会随着时间自我解决掉一部分，并不会缺什么或少什么。但对于24小时需要开机的，那是真正重要能解决问题的人，缺之不得，自然也是责任更加重要。
但其实，体会更多的是，莫慌。不论遇到什么，冷静下来，一件一件处理。否则，慌乱根本解决不了问题，反倒让自己更加处于一种焦虑之中。
遇事情解决事情，遇问题处理问题，不论是否错过，都别慌。因为很多事情需要你的时候总会有先兆，也不需要慌那一时。保持冷静，事情才能更加顺利处理。
【梦境】
梦到了自己乘坐高铁的时候因为什么忘记没赶上一班，结果发现确实最后一班车。
还有一个是男朋友没有去接我，结果是去旁边店里不知道干什么去了 。
【每日反思与改过】
两个人的时候做事情应该互相讨论，而不是以自己的认为为准则，失去了讨论。
看到信息的时候及时回复，去解决紧急而重要的事情。将重要的事情尽量拉长战线，紧急的事情当下就做，千万别拖着。