Do as Romans do. We always say that, esp. when we are abroad, but who tell the foreigners what to do and how to act when they are in China?
We think the foreigners are open-minded, so we accept their rudeness sometimes. However, do you remember we are the host here, in China? We are the ones who should be respected, and our rules should be followed.
The reason why we’re neglected by others (both in personal relations and that between cultures). Because we don’t even respect ourselves, how could we get respect from others? That’s the key point in interpersonal communication, esp. In intimate relationships.
A lot of articles in the moments are talking about how women can live a happy life. They say, for a woman, the most important thing is we should respect and love ourselves first of all. When we are strong enough, others will respect, and even fall in love with us.
Before I took the words as text book lines, so I just kept them in my mind. Until my psychological counselor told me that, did I realize the real meaning of the words. To me, that means, I must find myself first, and then I could figure out what I want deep in my heart. Although I’m still searching for that, I know I’m getting nearer and nearer to the destination. Although I’m still anxious now and then, I just believe that I could get it. From here and there, I could see my progress, huge progress, which fill me with great confidence to become a better me, and finally, find the real me. Although I can’t explain what exactly “real me” means, I know there is a real me, I know I could be the real me, because I have made progress in the past months. I have started form not believing in my counselor, to saying whatever in my mind, even to speaking out what in my mind to anyone in front of me. I fear less for no reasons, and I am braver and braver, which makes me stronger and stronger, and more and more confident. I love this me much, much, much better than the former one, which is shy, diffident, self- horrified, slow and nearly numb totally. I could almost burst into tears every time I thought about the old days, and the old me. I’d like to give her a huge and warm hug, and say, “My dear, I love you! Just be brave! I’m here all the time!”
I really appreciate myself who choose to seek for the real me. What’s more, I could stick to my aim no matter what happen, no matter how difficult it is. More luckily, I met the strong-minded counselor, who has been helping me out all through the way. The other one is my auntie is really open-minded, who is always at my back.
I LOVE ALL OF YOU!