I'm so poor at talking

I suddenly found I’m a person who couldn’t use comfortable sentences to communicate with others. I showed my WeChat log to my colleagues and she said my words were hard like a stone which would make my clients uncomfortable. I then reread these sentences and I had to admit these sentences are surely so hard. If someone speak with me like this, I won’t feel good and won’t treat him or her as a kind guy. My words and sentences must have hurt others’ feeling. I’m already aware I ‘m not so good at using comfortable words while talking with unfamiliar people but I never thought it would be so severe. It must play a bad effect on my relationship with my clients.

But what about the relationship with my friends or colleagues?

I finished one task and sent it to my leader and I attached one sentence to this file. But when I sent it out, I found I used the wrong words which would make others uncomfortable. I reread this sentence again and again and I even wanted to explained to my boss that sentence didn’t mean what I wanted to express. I suddenly realized I’m also poor at communicate with my friends and colleagues. Why I never realized that before? The main reason is that we are so familiar and I wouldn’t care about what I said when I talked with them. They tolerated me all the time and day by day, they have been accustomed to my style and wouldn’t mind this. But others won’t tolerate me.

Speaking is an art and I have a long way to go.