5 Secrets of the Truly Popular

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to have a grateful heart . Find ways to thank throughout the day .Focus on the good instead of the bad . Say “thank you” . Offer compliments to others , and give sincere praise . Look for the good in others , and they’ll find the good in you !

 

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What does it take to be popular? Good looks? Money? Athleticism? To be popular, does a girl have to turn into a shallow snob? Believe it or not, the answer is no.

[2] Never voted “Miss Popularity” myself, I became somewhat of an expert on the subject from observation . How’s that? Because my parents were missionaries, I moved and moved and moved. My life was an endless series of new cities, new homes and new schools .

[3] By my senior year of high school, I had lived in 21 homes, three states and two foreign countries. I had attended four elementary schools and two junior highs , I had been home-schooled and gone to three high schools, which ranged from an Amazon jungle MK (missionary kid) school of 30 students to two public schools with almost 2’ 000 students each . Clearly, I had plenty of opportunities to observe students who were truly popular and those who just thought they were .

[4] In all of my tours of duty as the “new kid”, more than anything else, I was continuously surprised at who the popular crowd was at each school I attended . The truly popular kids weren’t always the stereotype I imagined―good looks, nice cars, cool parents . In fact, a majority of the truly popular students were the ones with good grades and fewer social events on the calendar ; they didn’t look like models and their parents weren’t exactly the coolest . So what made them stand out? What does it take to be a truly popular person?

[5] I’ve noticed the truly popular people have five secrets to make them the object of attention. These five secrets can teach you how to be a truly popular, too!

1. Get Involved

[6] At every high school I attended , the most popular people weren’t the beauties , jocks or rich kids ; they were those who were simply involved in school life . The truly popular were friendly with everyone from janitors to administrators , the rich and the poor !

[7] They were involved in the Student Body Association ( they weren’t always the president !) , on a sports team , even in the band . One girl was the school mascot .

[8] Getting involved widens your scope of connections within the student body . It gives you opportunities to meet people you might never have met in class or on a social basis .

[9] You can do almost anything to get involved . Run for student council , join a team or club , be a part of the athletic boosters , help plan a school party , organize a schoolwide charity drive , or write for the school newspaper . There are plenty of opportunities to get involved , so take one !

2. Get Positive

[10] People are attracted to people with positive attitudes . Truly popular people make others feel happy and good about themselves . They have happy , sunny personalities .

[11] So do you have to be a stand-up comic or a Pollyanna to be positive ? No ! An easy way to be positive is to have a grateful heart . Find ways to thank throughout the day .Focus on the good instead of the bad . Say “thank you” . Offer compliments to others , and give sincere praise . Look for the good in others , and they’ll find the good in you !

3 . Get Political

[12] You don’t have to run for a class office… just act like you are ! Gandidates running for any office spend the majority of their time meeting and greeting the public. Popular people seem to be so popular because they appear to know every one ! They don’t allow themselves to be labeled , get stuck in a clique or be identified with only one group .

[13] Get outside your comfort zone of friends , and meet and greet new people . Be friendly to people you don’t know .Smile and say “hi” to others when you walk to calss . Who cares if you don’t know them ? Turn around and talk to the kid you usually ignore in English . Hang out with a different group before school or at lanch .

[14] Don’t let yourself be caught in the trap of knowing only students like you . Extend yourself to those who don’t seem to have anything in common with you―you might be surprised at how much you do have to talk about !

 

4. Get Real

[15] Truly popular people are sincere . Most truly popular people , if asked , wouldn’t even consider themselves to be popular . They genuinely care about and are interested in other people .They remember names , listen to others and share the limelight . They’re not afraid to get up in front of the entire student body and risk embarrassment in a class game at the pep rally . They’ll readily defend their beliefs in civics class . They’re not fake or out to win friends with assumed sincerity . The truly popular are those who take the time to get to know other people because they want to , not because they’re driven by a desire to be known or be somebody .

5. Get Rooted

[16] The truly popular people all have their own identity . They know who they are and what they stand for , regardless of what anyone else thinks , says or does .

 

 

译文：

获得校园好人缘的 5 个秘诀

要具备什么条件才能受欢迎呢？长得好看？有钱？还是对体育运动的爱好？是不是为了受欢迎，一个女孩子就要变为一个肤浅而势力的人呢？不管你信不信，答案是否定的。

[2] 我本人从未被选为“最受欢迎的小姐”，但我通过观察使自己多少成为了这个问题的专家。怎么会那样呢？因为我的父母都是传教士，我一次又一次地搬家。我的生活就是由没完没了的一系列新城市、新家和新学校构成的。

[3] 到了我高中最后一年的时候，我已在 21 个地方安家，住过 3 个州，除美国外还在两个国家居住过。我上过 4 所小学和 2 所初中，曾在家上学，先后进过 3 所高中，一个是位于亚马孙河丛林只有 30 个学生的传教士子弟学校，另外两个是各有接近 2000 名学生的公立学校。很明显，我有很多机会观察那些在校园里真正人缘好和那些只是自以为人缘好的学生。

[4] 在所有不得不作的旅行中，我上过的一所又一所学校里的受欢迎群体总是让我这个“新生”感到无比惊讶。真正受欢迎的学生并不总是我想像中的那种典型人物――长得好看，开着好车，父母都很“酷”。事实上，大多数真正受欢迎的学生他们成绩优良，日程上安排参加的社会活动也比较少；他们从外表上看并不怎么出众，而且他们的父母也并不真是最“酷”的。那么是什么使他们脱颖而出呢？做一个真正受大家欢迎的人要具备什么条件呢？

[5] 我注意到，真正受欢迎的人有 5 个秘诀使他们成为众人瞩目的对象。这 5 个秘诀也能教你怎样成为真正受欢迎的人！

1 、积极参与

[6] 在我上过的每所中学里，真正人缘好的人不是美女或帅哥，也不是运动员或富家子弟 ； 他们只是那些参与到校园生活里的人。真正受欢迎的人对每个人都很友好――从学校看门人到管理人员，无论富与贫！

[7] 他们是学生联合会成员（并不一定总是学生会主席哦！）、运动队的队员、甚至乐队的成员。有一个女孩还成了学校的吉祥代表。

[8] 参与校内活动会拓宽你在学生群体中的社交范围，也会创造机会让你结识可能永远无法在课堂上或社会活动中结识的人。

[9] 几乎做任何事都能使你融入校园生活。参加学生会竞选，加入某个运动队或俱乐部，加入某项运动的铁杆支持者行列，帮忙筹划一个校内聚会，组织一个校际慈善活动，或为校报撰稿。融入学校生活的机会很多，所以抓住一个吧！

2 ．乐观向上

[10] 生活态度乐观的人对他人有吸引力。真正人缘好的人让他人感到快乐和自在。他们具有乐天、开朗的个性。

[11] 那么，要做到乐观向上你必须是一个演独角戏的喜剧演员或盲目乐观的人吗？不！要做到乐观向上有个简单的方法，就是拥有一颗感恩的心。在日常生活中寻找感谢上帝的方式。关注善而不是恶。对别人说“谢谢您”。夸奖别人，表达由衷的赞美之意。找寻他人的优点，他们同样会在你身上发现优点的！

 

3 、学做政治家

[12] 不必去竞选班委……以你的本色行事吧！任何职务的候选人都将大部分时间用在结识和问候公众上。人缘好的人之所以看上去这么得人心，因为他们好像认识每一个人！他们不允许自己被归为某一类人、囿于某个派系或仅仅拥护某一个团体。

[13] 走出你交友的舒适区，去结识不认识的人，跟他们打招呼。善待陌生人。在你步行去上课的途中微笑着对他人说“你好”。谁会在乎你认不认识他们呢？转过身，用英语和你通常不会留意的那个孩子说话。打破惯例，和不同的人在上学前或午餐时打成一片。

[14] 不要落入怪圈――只认识与自己同一类型的同学。扩展交友范围，结识那些似乎没有任何共同点的人――你也许会惊讶于你们之间真的有很多话题可谈！

4 、以诚待人

[15] 真正人缘好的人待人真诚。如果被问及，大多数人缘好的人甚至都不认为自己广受欢迎。他们对别人的关心和关注是发自内心的。他们会记住他人的名字，倾听他人的想法，并与他人分享荣誉。他们不怕在全体学生面前站起、不惜在赛前动员会的班际竞赛中献丑。他们泰然自若地在公民学课上为自己的信念辩护。他们不伪装自己，也不会刻意用假装的真诚赢得友情。真正人缘好的人花时间了解别人是因为他们想这样做，而不是希望为人熟知或成为了不起的人物。

 

5 、信仰坚定

[16] 真正受欢迎的人都有他们自己的主见。他们知道自己是睡，也知道自己的主张是什么，这些都不为他人的想法、说法或做法所左右。