【教育随笔】你凭什么教育你的孩子

文丨冉灯

孩子借由你们的身体来到人间，他们生前所经历过的种种你是否得知，他们曾是古老灵魂的时候你可在场，他们的轮回转世你可知道。或许，他们拥有比你们更高的智慧，更多深沉的哲思。此刻，一个自己活得窝囊肤浅而暴躁的你，凭什么教育你的孩子。

今天职场得意，就带孩子出去欢喜，哪怕是此刻孩子犯了错误；今日人生不如意，孩子你就是我的眼中钉肉中刺，无论如何也要来上一段冷嘲热讽。是你们一时欢愉任性把TA带到人间，是你们需要传宗接代把他当做一个封堵他人口舌的存在。你，凭什么教育你的孩子。

孩子是上天派下的，他们有的是天使下凡，用以陪伴善良勇敢乐观的父母，他们有的是魔鬼化身，用以惩罚这些粗野蛮横自私的父母。孩子好不好的根源就在于你，你，凭什么教育你的孩子。

你一生无为懒惰颓废，却希望孩子能出人头地紧紧相逼，用自己混社会的一套自私任性的价值观企图传导，当孩子拥有自由思想而反抗叛逆时，你用暴力恶语强迫孩子屈从，试图让他用你的思维来走向辉煌腾达，我的天，你，凭什么教育你的孩子。

不要试图控制了，不要试图为孩子铺好道路了，你的孩子其实不是你的孩子，他们不过是借由你的身体来到人间，他们会有自己的坦途，他们会有自己的创造，他们会自己去寻觅适应人间的规则。

放手吧，如果，你真的爱你的孩子。

On Children

Your children are not your children.

They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself.

They come through you but not from you,

And though they are with you, yet they belong not to you.

You may give them your love but not your thought

For they have their own thoughts.

You may house their bodies but not their soul

For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow,

Which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.

You may strive to be like them,

But seek not to make them like you,

For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.

You are the bows from which your children.

As living arrows are sent forth.

The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite,

And He bends you with His might,

That His arrows may go swift and far.

Let your bending in the archer’s hand be for gladness;

For even as He loves the arrow that flies，

So He loves also the bow that is stable.