男朋友说:你好极端呀!

事情发生在前几天，我和刚刚在一起的男朋友开始了一系列的争吵。

争吵内容不重要，重要的是，我说:"不合适，就分手吧！"

男朋友有一瞬间的沉默，

    随后说道，"宝贝，你好极端呀!"

我没有一如既往的去反驳他，反而认真思考了这个问题!

我，为什么这么极端?

正好那几天，我接触了一个新的名词"依恋型人格!"

依恋型人格包括安全型、焦虑型、回避型人格三种。

    我，是属于回避型人格这一种。

几年前，美国做过一个调查问卷。你们也来做一下吧！

Option A

A选项(安全型人格)

I find it relatively easy to get close to others and I am comfortable depending on them and having them depend on me. I don't worry about being abandoned or about someone getting too close to me.

安全性人格::    我发现亲近他人并不难，我能轻松愉快地依赖对方，也能自在地接受对方的依赖。我不担心对方抛弃我，也不会因双方太过亲密而感到不自在。

我既独立又会依赖你，嘻嘻

Option B(焦虑型人格)

B选项

I find that others are reluctant to get as close as I would like. I often worry that my partner doesn't really love me or won't want to stay with me. I want to get very close to my partner, and this sometimes scares people away.

焦虑型人格:::我喜欢亲密关系，但是对方好像不太喜欢。我常常怀疑，对方是不是真心爱我，会不会讨厌和我在一起。我希望和对方变得亲密，但正因如此，有时对方会选择离开。

不要离开我，我真的再变好!

Option C(回避型人格)

C选项

I am somewhat uncomfortable being close to others; I find it difficult to trust them completely, difficult to allow myself to depend on them. I am nervous when anyone gets too close, and often, others want me to be more intimate than I feel comfortable being.

回避型人格:::亲近他人让我感到浑身难受；我很难完全信任他人，也无法完全依赖他人。在亲密关系中我会非常紧张，很多时候对方想接近我，而我不想这么亲密。

我害怕受伤，所以不要靠近我!