原文刊载于kk.org，标题为：103 Bits of Advice I Wish I Had Known。本文由江湖人称向前兄翻译整理。译者水平有限，如有不足，还请斧正。
凯文·凯利，常被称为KK，《连线》杂志创始主编；曾担任《全球评论》主编、出版人。著有《失控》、《科技想要什么》、《必然》等。
103 Bits of Advice I Wish I Had Known
我希望我知道的 103 条建议
Today is my birthday. I turn 70. I’ve learned a few things so far that might be helpful to others. For the past few years, I’ve jotted down bits of unsolicited advice each year and much to my surprise I have more to add this year. So here is my birthday gift to you all: 103 bits of wisdom I wish I had known when I was young.
今天是我的生日，我70岁了。到目前为止，我学到了一些可能对其他人有帮助的东西。在过去的几年里，我每年都会匆匆记下一些不请自来的建议。让我惊讶的是，今年我还有更多需要补充的。所以，这是我给你们大家的生日礼物：103 条我希望我年轻时就知道的智慧
(Previous years here and here.)
（前几年在这里和这里。）
（译者注：网上有人翻译过。原文链接地址为：
1、https://kk.org/thetechnium/99-additional-bits-of-unsolicited-advice/
2、https://kk.org/thetechnium/68-bits-of-unsolicited-advice/
）
• About 99% of the time, the right time is right now.
大约99%的时候，正确的时间就是现在。
• No one is as impressed with your possessions as you are.
没有人像你一样对你的财产印象深刻
（译者注：搜索了下，此处应是《金钱心理学》里面的一句话，可粗浅理解为禀赋效应）
• Dont ever work for someone you dont want to become.
永远不要为你不想成为的人工作。
• Cultivate 12 people who love you, because they are worth more than 12 million people who like you.
培养12个爱你的人，因为他们比1200万喜欢你的人更有价值
• Dont keep making the same mistakes; try to make new mistakes.
不要一直犯同样的错误；尝试犯新的错误
（译者注：类似于《论语》中的“不贰过”）
• If you stop to listen to a musician or street performer for more than a minute, you owe them a dollar.
如果你停下来听一个音乐家或街头艺人表演超过一分钟，你就欠他们一美元
• Anything you say before the word “but” does not count.
你在 "但是 "一词之前说的任何话都不算数
• When you forgive others, they may not notice, but you will heal. Forgiveness is not something we do for others; it is a gift to ourselves.
当你原谅别人时，他们可能不会注意到，但你会痊愈。宽恕不是我们为他人做的事情；这是给我们自己的礼物
• Courtesy costs nothing. Lower the toilet seat after use. Let the people in the elevator exit before you enter. Return shopping carts to their designated areas. When you borrow something, return it better shape (filled up, cleaned) than when you got it.
礼貌不需要花钱。用完马桶后把马桶盖放下。让电梯里的人在你进入之前离开。把购物车放回指定区域。当你借东西时，归还时要比你得到时的状态更好（装满，清洁）
• Whenever there is an argument between two sides, find the third side.
每当双方发生争执时，找到第三方
• Efficiency is highly overrated; Goofing off is highly underrated. Regularly scheduled sabbaths, sabbaticals, vacations, breaks, aimless walks and time off are essential for top performance of any kind. The best work ethic requires a good rest ethic.
效率被高估了，而偷懒被低估了。定期安排的安息日、公休日、假期、休息日、漫无目的的散步和休息时间对于任何类型的顶级表现都是必不可少的。最好的工作道德需要有良好的休息道德
• When you lead, your real job is to create more leaders, not more followers.
当你领导时，你真正的工作是创造更多的领导者，而不是更多的追随者
• Criticize in private, praise in public.
私下批评，公开表扬
• Life lessons will be presented to you in the order they are needed. Everything you need to master the lesson is within you. Once you have truly learned a lesson, you will be presented with the next one. If you are alive, that means you still have lessons to learn.
人生的课程会按照需要的顺序呈现给你。掌握课程所需的一切都在你的内心。一旦你真正吸取了教训，你就会得到下一个教训。如果你还活着，那意味着你还有教训要学
• It is the duty of a student to get everything out of a teacher, and the duty of a teacher to get everything out of a student.
从老师那里得到一切是学生的责任，从学生那里得到一切也是老师的责任
• If winning becomes too important in a game, change the rules to make it more fun. Changing rules can become the new game.
如果在一场游戏中获胜变得过于重要，那就改变规则并使它变得更有趣。改变规则可以成为新的游戏
• Ask funders for money, and they’ll give you advice; but ask for advice and they’ll give you money.
向资助者要钱，他们会给你建议；但向别人要建议，他们会给你钱
（译者注：这条没太看懂，搜到一个 Ask for money, get advice. Ask for advice, get money twice。是一首歌的歌词，reddit 上有人分析是类似于“不要相信歌词，他们为了押韵什么都做得出来”的情况）
• Productivity is often a distraction. Don’t aim for better ways to get through your tasks as quickly as possible, rather aim for better tasks that you never want to stop doing.
生产力通常会让人分心。不要以更好的方式尽快完成任务为目标，而是以更好的任务为目标，让你永远不想停止做。
• Immediately pay what you owe to vendors, workers, contractors. They will go out of their way to work with you first next time.
立即向供应商、工人、承包商支付你所欠的款项。他们下次会不遗余力地先与你合作。
• The biggest lie we tell ourselves is “I dont need to write this down because I will remember it.”
我们告诉自己的最大谎言是 "我不需要写下来，因为我会记住的"。
• Your growth as a conscious being is measured by the number of uncomfortable conversations you are willing to have.
你作为一个有意识的人的成长是由你愿意进行的不舒服谈话的数量来衡量的。
• Speak confidently as if you are right, but listen carefully as if you are wrong.
说话要自信，就好像你是对的，但要仔细听，就好像你是错的。
• Handy measure: the distance between your fingertips of your outstretched arms at shoulder level is your height.
方便的测量：你伸出的手臂指尖与肩同高的距离就是你的身高。
• The consistency of your endeavors (exercise, companionship, work) is more important than the quantity. Nothing beats small things done every day, which is way more important than what you do occasionally.
你所做的努力（锻炼、陪伴、工作）的一致性比数量更重要。没有什么比每天做的小事更重要了，这比你偶尔做的事情更重要。。
• Making art is not selfish; it’s for the rest of us. If you don’t do your thing, you are cheating us.
做艺术不是自私的；它是为我们其他人服务的。如果你不做你的事，你就是在欺骗我们。
• Never ask a woman if she is pregnant. Let her tell you if she is.
永远不要问一个女人是否怀孕。让她告诉你她是不是。
• Three things you need: The ability to not give up something till it works, the ability to give up something that does not work, and the trust in other people to help you distinguish between the two.
你需要三样东西。有能力不放弃某件事情直到它成功，有能力放弃不起作用的事情，以及信任其他人来帮助你区分这两种情况。
• When public speaking, pause frequently. Pause before you say something in a new way, pause after you have said something you believe is important, and pause as a relief to let listeners absorb details.
公开演讲时，要经常停顿。在你以新的方式说某件事情之前暂停，在你说了你认为重要的事情之后暂停，并将暂停作为一种解脱，让听众吸收细节。
• There is no such thing as being “on time.” You are either late or you are early. Your choice.
没有所谓的 "准时 "之说。你要么迟到，要么提前。你的选择。
• Ask anyone you admire: Their lucky breaks happened on a detour from their main goal. So embrace detours. Life is not a straight line for anyone.
问问你钦佩的人。他们的幸运发生在远离主要目标的弯道上。所以接受弯路。对任何人来说，生活都不是一条直线。
• The best way to get a correct answer on the internet is to post an obviously wrong answer and wait for someone to correct you.
在互联网上获得正确答案的最好方法是发布一个明显错误的答案，并等待有人来纠正你。
（译者注：坎宁安定律）
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• You’ll get 10x better results by elevating good behavior rather than punishing bad behavior, especially in children and animals.
通过提升好的行为而不是惩罚坏的行为，你会得到10倍的效果，特别是在儿童和动物身上。
• Spend as much time crafting the subject line of an email as the message itself because the subject line is often the only thing people read.
花尽量多的时间精心设计电子邮件的主题行，因为主题行往往是人们阅读的唯一内容
• Don’t wait for the storm to pass; dance in the rain.
生活不是等待暴风雨过去，而是要学会在雨中跳舞。
• When checking references for a job applicant, employers may be reluctant or prohibited from saying anything negative, so leave or send a message that says, “Get back to me if you highly recommend this applicant as super great.” If they don’t reply take that as a negative.
当检查求职者的推荐信时，雇主可能不愿意或被禁止说任何负面的东西，所以留下或发送一条信息说："如果你强烈推荐这个求职者是超级棒的，请给我回信。" 如果他们不回复，就当作是一种否定。
• Use a password manager: Safer, easier, better.
使用密码管理器：更安全、更简单、更好。
• Half the skill of being educated is learning what you can ignore.
受教育的一半技能是学习你可以忽视的东西。
• The advantage of a ridiculously ambitious goal is that it sets the bar very high so even in failure it may be a success measured by the ordinary.
雄心勃勃的目标的优势在于，它设定了非常高的标准，因此即使失败，也可能是以普通人的眼光来衡量的成功。
• A great way to understand yourself is to seriously reflect on everything you find irritating in others.
了解自己的一个好方法是认真地反思别人身上让你生气的一切。
• Keep all your things visible in a hotel room, not in drawers, and all gathered into one spot. That way you’ll never leave anything behind. If you need to have something like a charger off to the side, place a couple of other large items next to it, because you are less likely to leave 3 items behind than just one.
在酒店房间里把你所有的东西都放在显眼的地方，不要放在抽屉里，全部集中到一个地方。这样你就不会落下任何东西。如果你需要把充电器之类的东西放在一边，就在它旁边放几件其他的大件物品，因为你留下三件物品的可能性比只留下一件要小。
• Denying or deflecting a compliment is rude. Accept it with thanks, even if you believe it is not deserved.
拒绝或回避赞美是不礼貌的。即使你认为它不值得，也要感谢地接受它。
• Always read the plaque next to the monument.
始终阅读纪念碑旁边的牌匾。
• When you have some success, the feeling of being an imposter can be real. Who am I fooling? But when you create things that only you — with your unique talents and experience — can do, then you are absolutely not an imposter. You are the ordained. It is your duty to work on things that only you can do.
当你有一些成功的时候，作为一个冒牌货的感觉可能是真实的。我在愚弄谁呢？但当你创造出只有你--以你独特的才能和经验--才能做到的事情时，那么你绝对不是冒牌货。你是受命者。在只有你能做的事情上努力是你的职责。
• What you do on your bad days matters more than what you do on your good days.
你在糟糕的日子里所做的比你在好日子里所做的更重要。
• Make stuff that is good for people to have.
做出对人们有好处的东西。
• When you open paint, even a tiny bit, it will always find its way to your clothes no matter how careful you are. Dress accordingly.
当你打开油漆，哪怕是一丁点，无论你多么小心，它总会找到你的衣服。Dress accordingly。
• To keep young kids behaving on a car road trip, have a bag of their favorite candy and throw a piece out the window each time they misbehave.
为了让年幼的孩子们在汽车公路旅行中表现良好，准备一袋他们最喜欢的糖果，每当他们行为不端时，就向窗外扔一块。
• You cannot get smart people to work extremely hard just for money.
你无法让聪明人仅仅为了钱而极力工作。
• When you don’t know how much to pay someone for a particular task, ask them “what would be fair” and their answer usually is.
当你不知道该为某项任务付给某人多少钱时，问他们 "怎样才算公平"，他们的回答通常就是。
• 90% of everything is crap. If you think you don’t like opera, romance novels, TikTok, country music, vegan food, NFTs, keep trying to see if you can find the 10% that is not crap.
90%的东西都是垃圾。如果你认为你不喜欢歌剧、爱情小说、TikTok、乡村音乐、素食、NFT，继续尝试，看看你是否能找到不垃圾的 10%。
• You will be judged on how well you treat those who can do nothing for you.
人们将根据你对那些不能为你做什么的人的好坏来评判你。
• We tend to overestimate what we can do in a day, and underestimate what we can achieve in a decade. Miraculous things can be accomplished if you give it ten years. A long game will compound small gains to overcome even big mistakes.
我们倾向于高估我们一天能做的事情，而低估我们在十年内能取得的成就。如果你给它十年的时间，就可以完成奇迹般的事情。一场漫长的比赛会增加小收获，以克服甚至大的错误。
• Thank a teacher who changed your life.
感谢一位改变了你生活的老师。
• You cant reason someone out of a notion that they didn’t reason themselves into.
你不可能把一个人从一个他们自己不知道的概念中推理出来
• Your best job will be one that you were unqualified for because it stretches you. In fact only apply to jobs you are unqualified for.
你最好的工作可能是你不能胜任的工作，因为它会最大限度利用你的能力。事实上，只申请你不能胜任的工作。
• By used books. They have the same words as the new ones. Also libraries.
买旧书。他们有和新书一样的字。还有图书馆。
• You can be whatever you want, so be the person who ends meetings early.
你可以做任何你想做的事，所以做一个提前结束会议的人。
• A wise man said, “Before you speak, let your words pass through three gates. At the first gate, ask yourself, “Is it true?” At the second gate ask, “Is it necessary?” At the third gate ask, “Is it kind?”
智者说：“在你说话之前，让你的话通过三道门。在第一个大门，问自己，“这是真的吗？”在第二道门问：“有必要吗？”在第三道门问：“善良吗？”
• Take the stairs.
走楼梯。
• What you actually pay for something is at least twice the listed price because of the energy, time, money needed to set it up, learn, maintain, repair, and dispose of at the end. Not all prices appear on labels. Actual costs are 2x listed prices.
你为某样东西实际支付的费用至少是标价的两倍，因为需要花费精力、时间和金钱来设置、学习、维护、修理，以及最后处置。不是所有的价格都出现在标签上。实际成本是标价的2倍。
• When you arrive at your room in a hotel, locate the emergency exits. It only takes a minute.
当你到达酒店的房间时，找到紧急出口。这只需要一分钟时间。
• The only productive way to answer “what should I do now?” is to first tackle the question of “who should I become?”
回答 "我现在应该做什么？"的唯一有效的方式是首先解决 "我应该成为谁？"的问题。
• Average returns sustained over an above-average period of time yield extraordinary results. Buy and hold.
在高于平均水平的时间内持续的平均回报会产生非凡的结果。买入并持有。
• It’s thrilling to be extremely polite to rude strangers.
对无礼的陌生人极度礼貌是很刺激的。
• It’s possible that a not-so smart person, who can communicate well, can do much better than a super smart person who can’t communicate well. That is good news because it is much easier to improve your communication skills than your intelligence.
一个不太聪明但能很好沟通的人可能比一个超级聪明但不能很好沟通的人做得更好。这是一个好消息，因为提高你的沟通能力比提高你的智力要容易得多。
• Getting cheated occasionally is the small price for trusting the best of everyone, because when you trust the best in others, they generally treat you best.
偶尔受骗是相信每个人的优点的小代价，因为当你相信别人的优点时，他们通常也会对你最好。
• Art is whatever you can get away with.
艺术是你能逃脱的一切。
• For the best results with your children, spend only half the money you think you should, but double the time with them.
为了在孩子身上取得最好的效果，只花你认为应该花的一半的钱，但花双倍的时间与他们在一起。
• Purchase the most recent tourist guidebook to your home town or region. You’ll learn a lot by playing the tourist once a year.
购买最新的家乡或地区的旅游指南。每年扮演一次游客，你会学到很多东西。
• Dont wait in line to eat something famous. It is rarely worth the wait.
不要排队等候吃著名的东西。它很少值得等待。
• To rapidly reveal the true character of a person you just met, move them onto an abysmally slow internet connection. Observe.
为了迅速揭示你刚认识的一个人的真实性格，把他们移到一个慢得不能再慢的网络上。观察一下。
• Prescription for popular success: do something strange. Make a habit of your weird.
世俗化成功的处方：做一些奇怪的事情。让你的怪异成为一种习惯。
• Be a pro. Back up your back up. Have at least one physical backup and one backup in the cloud. Have more than one of each. How much would you pay to retrieve all your data, photos, notes, if you lost them? Backups are cheap compared to regrets.
成为专业人士。备份你的备份。至少要有一个物理备份和一个云端的备份。每个备份都要多于一个。如果你丢失了你的所有数据、照片、笔记，你会花多少钱来找回它们？与遗憾相比，备份很便宜。
• Dont believe everything you think you believe.
不要相信你认为自己相信的一切。
• To signal an emergency, use the rule of three; 3 shouts, 3 horn blasts, or 3 whistles.
要发出紧急信号，使用三法则；3 声喊叫、3 声喇叭声或 3 声口哨声。
• At a restaurant do you order what you know is great, or do you try something new? Do you make what you know will sell or try something new? Do you keep dating new folks or try to commit to someone you already met? The optimal balance for exploring new things vs exploiting them once found is: 1/3. Spend 1/3 of your time on exploring and 2/3 time on deepening. It is harder to devote time to exploring as you age because it seems unproductive, but aim for 1/3.
在餐厅，你是点你知道的好东西，还是尝试新东西？你是做你知道会卖的东西还是尝试新的东西？你是继续和新朋友约会，还是试着对已经认识的人作出承诺？探索新事物与利用它们的最佳平衡点是：1/3。把1/3的时间花在探索上，2/3的时间花在深化上。随着年龄的增长，将时间投入到探索中是比较困难的，因为它似乎是无益的，但目标是1/3。
• Actual great opportunities do not have “Great Opportunities” in the subject line.
真正的好机会不会在主题行中出现 "好机会"。
• When introduced to someone make eye contact and count to 4. You’ll both remember each other.
当被介绍给某人时，要有眼神接触并数到4，你们都会记住对方。
• Take note if you find yourself wondering “Where is my good knife? Or, where is my good pen?” That means you have bad ones. Get rid of those.
如果你发现自己在想 "我的好刀呢？或者，我的好笔在哪里？" 这意味着你有个坏的东西。把它们扔掉。
• When you are stuck, explain your problem to others. Often simply laying out a problem will present a solution. Make “explaining the problem” part of your troubleshooting process.
当你陷入困境时，向别人解释你的问题。通常情况下，简单地阐述一个问题就能提出一个解决方案。让 "解释问题 "成为你排除故障过程的一部分。
（译者注：类似于编程里面的小黄鸭调试法）
• When buying a garden hose, an extension cord, or a ladder, get one substantially longer than you think you need. It’ll be the right size.
在购买花园水管、延长线或梯子时，要买一个比你认为需要的长得多的。这将是正确的尺寸。
• Dont bother fighting the old; just build the new.
不要费力地与旧事物作斗争；只要建立新事物。
• Your group can achieve great things way beyond your means simply by showing people that they are appreciated.
你的团队可以实现超越你能力范围的伟大成就，仅仅通过向人们展示他们是被欣赏的。
• When someone tells you about the peak year of human history, the period of time when things were good before things went downhill, it will always be the years of when they were 10 years old — which is the peak of any human’s existence.
当有人告诉你人类历史上的巅峰之年，即事情走下坡路之前的那段时期，这将永远是他们10岁的时候--这是任何人类存在的高峰。
（译者注：莫非是想说格拉斯科技三定律）
• You are as big as the things that make you angry.
从让一个人生气的事情大小就能看出一个人的价值。
（译者注：搜了下，是丘吉尔说的话）
• When speaking to an audience it’s better to fix your gaze on a few people than to “spray” your gaze across the room. Your eyes telegraph to others whether you really believe what you are saying.
在对听众讲话时，将你的目光固定在几个人身上比将你的目光 "扫射 "到整个房间更好。你的眼睛会向别人传达你是否真的相信你所说的。
• Habit is far more dependable than inspiration. Make progress by making habits. Dont focus on getting into shape. Focus on becoming the kind of person who never misses a workout.
习惯比灵感要可靠得多。通过养成习惯来取得进步。不要把注意力放在塑身上。要专注于成为那种从不错过锻炼的人。
• When negotiating, dont aim for a bigger piece of the pie; aim to create a bigger pie.
谈判时，不要以争取更大的蛋糕为目标；要以创造一个更大的蛋糕为目标。
• If you repeated what you did today 365 more times will you be where you want to be next year?
如果你把今天所做的事情再重复365次，明年你会成为你想成为的人吗？
• You see only 2% of another person, and they see only 2% of you. Attune yourselves to the hidden 98%.
你只看到另一个人的2%，而他们只看到你的2%。把你们自己调整到隐藏的98%。
• Your time and space are limited. Remove, give away, throw out things in your life that dont spark joy any longer in order to make room for those that do.
你的时间和空间是有限的。移除、放弃、扔掉你生活中那些不再能激发快乐的东西，以便为那些能激发快乐的东西腾出空间。
• Our descendants will achieve things that will amaze us, yet a portion of what they will create could have been made with today’s materials and tools if we had had the imagination. Think bigger.
我们的后代将取得令我们惊讶的成就，然而，如果我们有想象力，他们将创造的一部分东西可以用今天的材料和工具来制造。想得更大。
• For a great payoff be especially curious about the things you are not interested in.
为了获得巨大的回报，对你不感兴趣的事情要特别好奇。
• Focus on directions rather than destinations. Who knows their destiny? But maintain the right direction and you’ll arrive at where you want to go.
专注于方向而不是目的地。谁知道自己的命运？但保持正确的方向，你就会到达你想去的地方。
• Every breakthrough is at first laughable and ridiculous. In fact if it did not start out laughable and ridiculous, it is not a breakthrough.
每一个突破一开始都是可笑的、荒谬的。事实上，如果它一开始不是可笑和荒谬的，就不是突破。
• If you loan someone 20.
如果你借给某人 20 美元，而你再也见不到他们，因为他们不还你，那它就值 20 美元。
• Copying others is a good way to start. Copying yourself is a disappointing way to end.
抄袭他人是一个好的开始。抄袭自己是一个令人失望的结束方式。
• The best time to negotiate your salary for a new job is the moment AFTER they say they want you, and not before. Then it becomes a game of chicken for each side to name an amount first, but it is to your advantage to get them to give a number before you do.
为新工作谈判薪水的最佳时机是在他们说要你之后，而不是之前。然后，这就变成了双方先说出一个数额的胆小鬼博弈，但让他们在你之前给出一个数字是对你有利的。
• Rather than steering your life to avoid surprises, aim directly for them.
与其控制你的生活以避免意外，不如直接瞄准它们。
• Dont purchase extra insurance if you are renting a car with a credit card.
如果你是用信用卡租车，不要购买额外的保险。
• If your opinions on one subject can be predicted from your opinions on another, you may be in the grip of an ideology. When you truly think for yourself your conclusions will not be predictable.
如果你对一个问题的意见可以从你对另一个问题的意见中预测出来，你可能被一种意识形态所控制。当你真正为自己思考时，你的结论就不会被预测。
• Aim to die broke. Give to your beneficiaries before you die; it’s more fun and useful. Spend it all. Your last check should go to the funeral home and it should bounce.
争取死后一贫如洗。在你死之前给你的受益人；这更有趣，更有用。花光所有的钱。你的最后一张支票应该交给殡仪馆，它应该会退票。
• The chief prevention against getting old is to remain astonished.
防止变老的主要方法是保持惊讶。
原文地址：https://kk.org/thetechnium/103-bits-of-advice-i-wish-i-had-known/