the science of well-being 公开课

the science of well-being

• 认知的偏差。
  我们以为讨厌我们的工作，但是业余时间如果浪费在做一些无趣的事情，也会让我们不开心，还不如工作。所以比较重要的事情最好是找个喜欢工作。
  工作后做一些自己想做没有压力的事情其实也挺开心的。
  不应该把意义放在ED上！找到更多的意义！
• 冥想真的有助于大脑的重新塑造！
• 我们不是根据实际情况判定我们是否会happy，是由于reference point决定我们是否happy。
• 找一个可以体会到Flow的工作

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Week 1: MISCONCEPTIONS ABOUT HAPPINESS

我们以为我休闲会让我们开心，但是因为休闲没有挑战，事实没有让我们很开心。
工作时候我们总是想要休闲，但是工作让我们感受到挑战也让我们完成一些事情，会给我们成就感，会让我们觉得幸福。
我们以为会给我们幸福的东西不一定真的给我们幸福。

FLOW = THE MENTAL STATE IN WHICH A PERSON PERFORMING AN ACTIVITY IS FULLY IMMERSED IN A FEELING OF ENERGIZED FOCUS, FULL INVOLVEMENT, AND ENJOYMENT (AKA “THE ZONE”)

SOME FEATURES OF FLOW
• CHALLENGING BUT ATTAINABLE GOALS
• STRONG FOCUSED CONCENTRATION
• THE ACTIVITY IS INTRINSICALLY REWARDING
• FEELINGS OF SERENITY
• LOSS OF SELF-CONSCIOUSNESS
• TIMELESSNESS / LOSE TRACK OF TIME
PASSING
• LACK OF AWARENESS OF PHYSICAL NEEDS
• COMPLETE FOCUS ON THE ACTIVITY ITSELF

"THE BEST MOMENTS IN OUR LIVES ARE NOT THE PASSIVE, RECEPTIVE, RELAXING TIMES. THE BEST MOMENTS USUALLY OCCUR IF A PERSON’S BODY OR MIND IS STRETCHED TO ITS LIMITS IN A VOLUNTARY EFFORT TO ACCOMPLISH SOMETHING DIFFICULT AND WORTHWHILE.”

Week 2

Knowing is half the battle?

week 3

Annoying Feature #1

Our minds’ strongest intuitions are often totally wrong

Annoying Feature #2

Our minds don’t think in terms of absolutes; our minds judge to relative reference points

Annoying Feature #3

Our minds are built to get used to stuff
中了彩票的人过了几个月也没有那么幸福
处境比较艰难的人也没有我们想象那么不开心。

meditation helps

an wondering mind, in essence, is a unhappy mind.

mind最强烈的直觉经常是错误的

• 比如什么让我们开心，哪一条线段更长